Currently reading a really good book called “Wired That Way” by Marita Littauer about understanding and maximizing your personality type. I already knew from previous books and tests that I am a combo of peaceful phlegmatic and perfect melancholy.
I tend to be quiet (both), typically avoid conflict (phlegmatic), perfectionist (melancholy), likes stability (melancholy), makes long term goals/high standards (melancholy), detailed orientated (melancholy), hidden will of iron (phlegmatic), closed off (melancholy), easy going (phlegmatic), sympathetic/keeps emotions hidden (phlegmatic), likes to stay in the background (melancholy), creative (melancholy).
I used to think that those things were bad and flaws. But through time I found that everyone brings something different to the table. If everyone were the same life would be really boring. And everyone would have the same job, which wouldn’t work. Figuring out how to use the strengths of your personality and overcome the weaknesses is better than trying to change yourself. It took me until I was well into college until I realized this.
Something everyone should look into.